Around the world there's a lot of confusion about what is a marriage, what is a healthy marriage?
But I believe that every human being is created to have a desire to be married and some have a desire to be single. But most of you want to be married. So what does a healthy marriage look like, and why is there so much confusion about this topic of marriage and family?
Well there are three things that you need to understand when you get married.
One, is the whole idea of commitment. Commitment for the rest of your life to this one person. Now it's an investment of your life into them but it's an investment of their life into your life. And so you make each other lives even better. I often tell people that when they get married and they know the Lord as their God than they have a triune relationship. They have the husband and they have the wife and they have God involved. And so this relationship really works because of that overall relationship
Three things you need to understand to have a healthy marriage. One, commitment. We're committed to each other for the rest of our life. And we're going to be committed even when things aren't working out well. We believe in that person. We're investing in them.
And so when you become married it isn't something you choose to do because you feel good about it. Because true love in marriage is not based just on emotional feelings. Emotional feelings come and they go. A lot of times your emotional feelings have to do with the nights' sleep you had before today or the food you ate. Your emotions can be thrown off very easily. But in marriage you believe that love is commitment, love is a decision. You decide to do the loving thing for the person you're married to because you're committed. And commitment isn't something that's two weeks or two months or two years. Commitment is something where you become married and your committed to this person for the rest of your life. And so you have to understand that when you make this important decision to get married, or if you are married and you're not feeling really good about your spouse, understand that you can be committed.
